Finished!!!!

Yeah, that's right our poor surely demented by now decorator has finished the house, all that needs doing now is the new carpet laid in the spare room, the new shower screen to go up, a items to swapped over in the bathroom which can wait till the screen goes up.. I would recommend this guy to anyone but hmm I think he's booked till this time next year or there abouts, yeah he's that popular and he's good..
So I can at least now relax a bit more... yeah maybe just maybe...

2 down, 4 to go

Okay folks I am alive, just been a bit busy last weekend as well it all came together finally well just about.
Sitting room is finally done and dusted although the decorator we got in temporarily won't be getting back as he patched the wallpaper badly, let's just say I could have done a better job at the patching as it don't match wouldn't be so bad if it was like in a corner where it wouldn't be seen but this is in the middle of the wall. Never mind it will get fixed. I put the new lights up, side lights went up no problem, went to put new centre light up only to discover that one of the lampshades was missing and another had a crack in it, I THOUGHT SOMEONE was supposed to have CHECKED all them, and the receipt is somewhere "safe" thankfully was able to return it for a direct replacement which is now up and looks good. Carpet fitter was in on Friday so the carpet is down in there as well as the stairs so I can actually go up and down stairs without this horrible echo of creaky wooden stairs. Saturday saw the arrival of the new furniture so now we have a comfortable place to sit down, dining room table and chairs sits nicely in one corner, a glass display cabinet in another and new matching TV stand in a third. So all in all done and dusted. I had to escape on Saturday thought as well I needed to swap the light and I did a little shopping to boot :D Yeah me practicality.
Sunday well that was Bowlplex once more as nephew wanted to go and always asks me just as he's leaving to go home, if I can take him :|... I won but I managed to lose a nice brown top I had in there somewhere, must phone and find out if it's been found yet.

I'd rather be...

Well I'd rather be someplace else right now than here, although the painter is meant to start THURSDAY!!, mum arrives back on Sunday. Need I say anymore?
Sanity rating: - error - Oh great my sanity meter has broken again!
Yeah, I heard that from the back, It did work (at one point in the semi-recent past).
Now as to where that someplace could be is anyone's guess, bleh why do we need passports...
Oh work is doing good..
Oh and I got made a moderator on a forum I'm a member off, due to all the work I've done...
Speaking of which back to that - trying to get something to appear on another image, should be simple, but it's not working even if everything says it SHOULD!

And Then . . .

And then there was a week where 0 happened...
Serious 0 happened last week, the decorator appears to be MIA somewhere else, didn't book him so can't confirm or deny he actually said he'd come but I have his number it will be getting called. Mum does know all this as she did ask and I don't lie to mum it's not needed. The "Twins" are buying the house they go see the bank et al tomorrow about it all, but from the looks of it they get the mortgage I pay the bloody thing as well as food etc.. fair hell no but I am totally and utterly past caring bloody more anymore...
They said it will be between this and that, and this will happen and if this happens we'll discuss it at the time,etc., etc. I went "fine" in a pissed off tone.. I was told ".. well you had the chance to buy it, we didn't think you wanted to so we're buying it.". I went "fine" to that too..
Oh and after 15 yrs then it's their "profit" time unless I've bought them out so to speak blah, blah, blah, blah, blah!
Oh they've figured out I'm pissed off at the painter not arriving but apprently he's been called 4 times and no return calls...
I'd put up some pics but I don't wanna depress you dear, dear reader any more.
Home, lol it's anything BUT.

Oh yeah and Magners Cider is very, very nice ice cold, It goes down even smoother...
I might need to restock it maybe..

This is the week that was..

Okay update time, I suppose.
A zen like peace is now in session, well I had to turn the music down it is late :p.
Mother arrived safe and well down south and has been relaxing all week, mainly sleeping but hey she needed it, she's off to another cousin's tomorrow for a week then to my aunt's for a week and we'll see what happens from there. Oh yeah my cousin after she called on the thursday phoned my sister and erm had a go (well she's allowed, mum is her godmother after all:D), with one of my other cousins helping out, it isn't a good idea to upset that cousin, I was glad I was sitting down when I was told this as I was laughing so hard, she did say mum looks a lot better now gone is the "someone's given me a black eye" look so result :). I cried at that but don't tell anyone..

My week has been interesting.
Saturday - took out and put back the fire surround thing once I had taken away all the bits of wallpaper from behind - I then proceeded to clear the whole wall with help of a mate.. Sisters turned up 1 after the other sort of. "Thinking out loud" in the kitchen as to how to re-arrange it, I said "no" often, till they gave in. It might not seem functional but I like it the way it is and I can work in it even if those 2 can't, oh and they did try and throw stuff out that "wasn't any use" (to them). It was put back and the place re-arranged so I can work it.
Sunday did the shopping and sanded down mum's bedroom - which I've discovered needs looked at as it's not working 100% it sticks not good.
Monday - back at work and thus I couldn't be bothered doing anything so just chilled.
Tuesday - busy (ish) at work so again chilled out I just think I needed the "space" even if mate did come round.
Wednesday - Work and Invaded as older sister did say she'd be down I said just do the bottom hall as it's not much and that will do. Other sister decides to come down afterwards and work clearing the paper off the stairs - I finished it AND tidied up..
Thursday - Work and I finished the top hall off as well as the bit not done on the stairs, thank god the ceiling is being re-papered as half of it has come off (it's bleeding woodchip - whoever invented that paper needs shot it's cheap, nasty and a swine to remove).
Friday - Work, yeah the WEEKEND! did some work on the spare room to clear it and did about 30% of the room will do the rest tomorrow and hit the kitchen on sunday as that is all that is left really.
Next week - double check it's all been done, touch up sanding etc..
Result I think..
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I don't know what's more stressful right now work or home..

Right now I don't honestly know what's more stressful...
A) Work - trying to figure out where each invoice I have listed in the system is and what it pertains to as well all I have is Invoice number,a name as the descriptor and create date, all is fine and well but how am I supposed to tell the invoice for a call out charge, a repair of a system, the replacement of an alarm or the general annual maintenance internal invoices when the file name is just the name who it's went to!
ARGH, I mean I've got to try and figure out who's paid for their maintenance this year and thus need to have their alarm service but I'm STRUGGLING to understand the electronic filing system that's been employed as nothing adds up... The JOYS!
or
B) Home - the walls are bare, the floors are bare, decorator coming in 2 weeks, walls look smooth enough to me to paper onto for me oh that and I'm going to have to try and figure out how the FUCK I'm going to fix a light in the bathroom that's been knocked out due to BITCH 1 being over zealous when she was taking the paper off the ceiling - ARGH! It's so bad , I'm booking mother on a flight down south to visit my cousin for a while, then my aunts etc. Still don't know when she wants to go as she needs to sort a few things out 1st. I am also at the end of my tether any more and I'm just gonna blow and things will get freaking messy.
Sisters who the FUNK would have them, mine I wouldn't give them to my worst enemy, yeah they are that bad!
Where did I put the prozac...

Update time

Okay so what has happened since my last actual post (the 2 below they are side notes).
Well let me see, in no particular datal order.
I've been to the Dental Place - they went to try and fix the tooth I said was bugging me and they can't fix it really it will have to come out or it will give me more grief. So I've to book another appointment and get an impression taken so that I can have that tooth and a few others that are now missing (darn sweet tooth of mine, well that and forgetting to brush sometimes).
So yeah basically I'm gonna end up with a few teeth that ain't my own - lovely.
Remember the house, well there is defiantly no wallpaper left or carpets they have all gone. There was a wardrobe that I was going to take to pieces and bring down but I never got that chance, FUCKING impatient BITCHES sorry sisters of mine decided not to wait even although the arranged collection date was oh a week away, all the stuff to be picked up was picked up last Wednesday, they needed it out so out it came but it would fit around the corner of the stairs so they basically destroyed the handrail, spindles and baseplace on one side of the stairs, so they could get this thing out, it went out in bits. Now I'm having to replace that as well, was hoping not to just sand it down so it could be painted but NO!!! I think you can imagine the sort of anger level I hit at when I saw it.
Oh and I get this bullshit about "picking sides" again, when will those 2 learn I've picked already but they are too stupid to notice.
On another note, the new carpets are picked and mum went back to the place she's getting her new suite from and saw a few items she like that were exactly as she wanted..

Oh yeah speaking of things mum likes, I was asked to go pick some stuff up on the way home one day from the local Argos, I just managed to fit it in the car, it was bit tight shall we say. I had the next day off due to car getting a new sump fitted, well £ 194 later it was done..
Anyway I'm at home and the rest of the Argos order arrives and I'm like What the freaking hell is all this doing here, oh that and mum's not pleased either.
They had ordered a new dinner service (we hated the cups), new kettle n toaster set - we can never get a toast that toasts just right it's either black/deep brown or white instead of the golden colour we like - don't need either of them. Bread bin - we got one of them and it's useable, also to match it tea, coffee & sugar containers - both went back no need for them. Black Marble place mats - I was like erm "NO" - sent back as mum didn't like at all. New Cutlery to go with it all - looked shit. This was all put up the stairs out the way, it was then brought back down put in the sitting room by my older sister, younger one had to go pick up le brat I mean the nephew, she then Stormed out - toys out the pram style, bank card was handed back with words like "there so you can accuse me of stealing your money!", done in a not very nice way really. It was all done to fact that all the stuff was bought but no receipts were ever given to my mum so she could see how much she was spending, I now have all of them, the stuff went back to Argos and the money is back in the account.
I've got around to sanding down the woodwork that needs doing so that it can be painted and I've sourced a new hand rail, base rail, spindles - I just need to get them from the shop home, they won't fit in car, 2.4m long no way, going to have to work that one out.
The decorator will be here at the end of the month.
Oh the weather this week wasn't too bad - pity all the good stuff happened while I was stuck in the office... was around low 70's all week, weekend it rained.
Work however is good.


Gordon signing off.

The ups, the downs and the downright strange aka My Week

It's been a while I know, I should post more often but I don't.
So what's been going on since my last post well the house is looking like it's been hit by high winds, there is paper missing everywhere, few rooms / areas have escaped the carnage that is my 2 sisters the seem hellbent on redoing the house how they want it, my mom god bless her is having none of it, she is saying no when it matters :). The kitchen ceiling is a mess at least one panel of plasterboard will need replacing if not 2. The spare room is now just that it looks sparce as well erm the carpet has been lifted, some furniture removed I think even the bed is gone although not sure on that one I'd have to look again and I'm not going to do that just yet. My room is escaping for the simple reason I said my room is fine, leave well alone! (or else) the or else being that well let's just say I can be what can only be termed "a right ass" and I could also change the locks, evil ME...
Anyway enough about the house and on to the rest of my week.
Last Saturaday I was invited out to Dundee to a mates birthday celebratory pub type crawl, not a proper pub crawl just we seem to hit a few of them is all..
It started off so well, The first one was a "Dundee FC" pub and Queen of the South had just beat them that afternoon and I went Oh yeah Queen of the South they did well against Aberdeen in the Cup.... my mate Dazz goes "this is a Dundee pub and they just got beaten by Queen of the South", I went "okay, new pub time :D"..
We then hit the balcony bar which was a nice little place quiet just the way I like it, of course we seemed to managed to have the one guy who was drunk already wander to our table, I mean by wander he had to get up some stairs and round the corner minding to duck as there is a beam about 6ft of the floor just around the corner, I love been short :D. We then went to "Starz" yeah with a Z everything that should have ended in an S ends in a Z in this place, it was okay the music was just about bareable then on comes this "muzak" and the DJ signing over it and stuff so we erm left and went to Dazz's "Local" which turned out to be a very, very fine Irish Pub with a brilliant Guitarist / Singer who well let's just say he's not very PC with the songs. Was ace, oh and through all this I only drank cola as I was driving home, next time I'm arranging for a bed someplace so I can drink.. That was the "up"
The "down" well that was pretty much "work" Monday to Wednesday.
Monday the boss and the "other" boss was in, stuff came in, I forgot to "Fax" copies to the other office as I thought copies had been taken - No.
Should have figured this out and faxed them Tuesday. Wednesday was a total downer - faxed the stuff only after I got asked if anything had come in.... :| and did that technically I wasn't meant and "broke" it or appeared to break it...
Thursday was strange the "broke" thing unbroke but then discovered other stuff that was broke late on, much of strange day - I love re-writing procedures so they all make sense and are all in the same layout not 20 different ones IN CAPS, bold, non-bold etc.. So I'm still freaking copy/pasting them into one document god bless "paste as unformatted text" which saves me all the hassle well a little - I still gotta reformat stuff like page titles and that.
Other Strange things this week include mum goes to new this and that and not actually bothering about the cost of it.
Oh and one last thing - I booked my checkup appointment at the local "Dental Access Place" - I can't find a dentist (well not really looked hard as well erm yeah that kinda thing) and now one of my other teeth is starting to give grief ARGH!

Zen...

So what's happening at Chez Gopher, well let me tell ya my sisters are taking over or it just seems that way...
My Aunt's been up for 2 weeks so bliss the minimalistic amount of cooking not that it actually bothers me, scrolls back to see what he wrote last time...........
I know it wasn't that long ago but it just seems it and the last post was kind of "out there random off the wall I'm pissed and blowing off steam" type of post.
Now things appear to be semiantly stabalist, hey the might not be spelled correctly or even exist but hey that's just a minor point and I'm allow them.
Now works be flipped, turned upside down or it just seems that way..
Well let's just say there is a new rota being put in place due to someone not doing as asked and getting what was coming to them, now where that left me I wasn't sure but I am at least sure now.. Dayshift mainly, 9-5 weekdays not the 8-4 could argue same-o-same but it's NOT. I answer the phones, take messages, transfer when needed, collect the mail and dump it into a tray to be collected I don't even need to open it :D, do the admin work, handle the deliveries and returns (it will be done right from now).. Typing up / modifying of work.
Meanwhile back at the ranch......
There are plans afoot to redecorate pretty much the WHOLE house, my room is mine so "Hands the hell off", the rest you can do with as ya like, it's a pity all the woodwork has a dark stain on it, I think it would look nice lighter but no painted it shall be, it does make sense just seems a LOT of money is being spent very quickly but I'm staying the HELL out I like life and I wanna keep breathing.

On a lighter note mum and I went out shopping yesterday well she was bored and wanted to go someplace and the shopping needed done afterwards we went to a local garden centre for lunch. It ended up an expensive weekend why because apart for shopping and lunch, my beloved car was due it's Annual service I threw some money at it and it's not done yet as still waiting on a price for a part.

Can I just say go visit Laura say hi, oh and wander over to Barb's and sit a spell..

What do I do now?

Okay I'm firmly at a loss here....
I pretty much live my own life even although I stay in my mum's house, I wake up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, and then sit at the PC and then sleep..
I do talk to her while I'm waiting on dinner getting ready and maybe eating it and a little in the morning but other than that not much...
Thing is of late, well ever since the "op" she had to remove the bruised blood on the inside of her head that screwed her speech up a bit and stuff. She's not been able to handle alcohol at all..
Now I don't know if it's just not being able to handle it or it's a combination of the alcohol and something she's been given to take at night but I've found her a few times on the floor, pissed as a fart and unable really to apparently get up.
Now I have said to her if she had a drink and is in bed and wants something to eat to just come as me and I'll go do it - no...
She tries to make something and fails always seems to have a banana in her had as well
strange that.. I mean she's fallen downstairs - no damage really she's been fine I checked her over, fallen out her seat in the sitting room straight forward as well knocking stuff over never breaking it as well..
Now we all know that "alchol" solves nothing, the thing is she's never been able to really talk to me and vice versa so starting now would be really hard.
It pains me to see her like that and no way can I move her at all, she has to do that herself and does eventually. I just cover her up with a blanket and make sure she's okay as best I can...
Does my head in like but I can't stop her drinking totally - even although she's just said after my aunt goes home "no more alcohol in here" not what I asked her to do - I just said cut down a little or don't take your tablets till your in bed and got something eat....
ARGH as all Mothers this FREAKING STUBBORN???

Thank You

I'd like to thank 3 lovely ladies on behave of my dear sweet mum, your gift arrived today and it's lovely, it will be cared for tenderly and will hopefully bring joy for at least a few months / years depends on how long it take for the green fingers to wear off..

So To Laura, Barb and Melonie - Thank You

** Hugs you all tight **

The ending of a chapter...

Well that's it over and done with, dad's in heaven now. The service was lovely minister did us proud, reminding us of how he was, not how he was at the end. So many faces I haven't seen in years were there but ask me who was and I could tell you all I can tell you is maybe just about who came to the buffet we had afterwards I think a few came to the service but then left, possibly out the other door I don't know. I was fine all through the service even when the closed the curtain, it was a cremation you see. I was holding it together real well then they sang the "Old rugged cross" I think I got about 2 words out and that was it, how I stayed upright I don't know only way I can think was God was holding me up, my mum couldn't sing it either we just stood holding on to each other...
So this is the end of the chapters of my life that feature my dad and on to chapters new where he'll still feature but just as a shadow..

Dad, thank you for giving me life, and the never ending curiousity for how things worked as it helped me so much and it defines who I do things I take a problem pull it apart see how it works or doesn't put it back together again as a solution, that and many other things besides..

My Dad 4/3/33 to 22/3/08 - Rest in Peace

Well it's finally over I think I knew that last night as I wrote the post, I knew he didn't have long, he died this morning at around 3am, I think I'm still not sure, he went peacefully in his sleep at least that's something.
The funeral is this Friday, I'm leaving all that to my sisters it will take all I have to keep plodding on, being strong for those who need it and I'm still going in to work on Monday as by then I'll need "space" and something resembling normality..
So long dad, it's been being fun and interesting knowing you, somethings you taught me I didn't realise you had done, thanks for that.

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Error data missing, restore from backup(y/n)?y
Error backup not found / corrupted, attempting to repair / find..
Unable to find / repair data, giving up!
Fatal error in Life.sys, reload..
Yeah uhuh that's just about maybe roundabout where I am right now..
I went into see Dad last night and I felt that I may as well not have been there as I got fuck all reaction to me talking to him, holding his hand etc trying to get something out nothing.. I said as much to my mum and she kinda agreed, I said to my oldest sister via text message in reply to a message she'd sent asking could I go in certain nights, I tried to put it in a nice way but I fucking guess they can't freaking read correctly as well about 10 minutes later phone goes it my OTHER sister DEMANDING to know what's going on... I explain and say you can tell her that too, no I'm sick of being the messenger, I went okay I'll tell her myself which I did.....
Scroll forward 12hrs - text message dad had an okay night, 1st time I've gotten one of those! 2 hrs later I'm out the office, phone goes "were wanted at the hospital right away", I said I'm not in the office I'll be there as soon as I can. I get there was there for 7 hrs, doing basically nothing, dad was half asleep mouth open etc.. THey said this could go on for days so WHAT BRILLIANT plan did my sister come up with we'll have one of us be there i.e 24hrs :| NOT FUCKING HAPPY BUNNY!!!!!!
I NEED MY GOD DAMN SLEEP STILL but do they actually CARE not a fucking JOT!!!!!! Oh well roll on 6am when I have to get up, waken up have something to eat, grab the paper and be in for 7am so I can take over.. I mean they asked me and they were bound to see I was tired I went "yeah" and I've been yawning as well guess they feel GUILTY in some way, me I'm at peace with myself and my dad, they AIN'T but I am going to be nice and not say they should be able to work that out themselves..
I think my mum thinks she's going with me, I don't remember being told she was to come.

It's Friday and I'm again not out anywhere....

I was meant to be going to see "Vantage Point" but my friend called off not at the last minute but 1st thing this morning when she came into the office. Now her excuse, she didn't think she had enough time to get enough sleep as she's got an appointment with the optition to see if she's suitable for laser eye surgery so she don't need to wear glasses anymore. Due to what they will do in the eye exam she can't drive in as her vision might end up a bit blurry for the rest of the day it's a morning appointment but she said she'd need to get up at like before 8 to get from her house to where the appointment is in time and she needs her beauty sleep...
The film was due to start at 8:50pm, it's 2hrs or there about call it 2 1/2 once you add trailers - that would be 11:20pm take her maybe 40 minutes to get home so home around midnight - she needs her 8 hrs! so that's out, We are going to see "The Spiderwick Chronicles" and "Vantage Point" on Sunday - If I can get away with it... very few things will stop me, not even the "guilt card" of looking after nephew will work anymore, although I don't think my sister realizes this yet, she will however, how soon is another matter...
Oh my dad is okay, he's was a little sleepy yesterday when I was in but he had had a lot of visitors in yesterday. Today of course is a different matter they've adjusted his meds and it's helping although he's a little bit disorentated and sleepy which is too be expected of course did he not try and go to the bathroom and misjudged getting out of bed, well rather fell out of bed and give himself a few bruise but he's fine.
More tomorrow night after I visit him.
Oh and speaking of sleep I think I'll go grab some given it's MIDNIGHT.

Happy Birthday Dad

Well today is Dad's birthday, probably his last but you never know, he has this darn stubborn streak a mile wide..
what can I say 75 today, About all I can say really :) Well that and I better scoot off to work...

Happy Monday

Hey people, yeah it's a Happy Monday why!
No bullshit from the sister today or for a while now she must be freaking learning..
Although on another note I think I'm going to have to let them in on a little secret - no not this blog, this is top secret from them (evil of me I know but Tough!!!!), no the secret that any electrical gadgetry that gets bought for the house I buy and get the money back later, I mean you'd think they could figure that out that many of the lights we have I bought, the digital TV reciever we have I bought and got the replacement when it died.. No they didn't they got a new vacuum cleaner even although the old one works it's just a bit noisy and maybe just needs a good clean out as all that gets done to it is the bag changed and when it wears out the drive belt nothing else. But No they got a new one and the ONLY way mum found out was because get this it wasn't the cheap one she'd heard about and wanted but a more expensive one they had to get and weren't sure, please note mother ISN'T allowed to use this cleaner or the old one since her operation. They also unwisely got another Digital TV receiver aka a DigiBox for the spare room so dad could got to sleep there with it on and not have mother worrying so much that he was falling asleep and getting cold, not to freaking mention all the lights & the TV being left on BURNING money and at 14.5p / KWh I object to shit like that as I have to top up the meter £ 15 used to now it's £20 and it's not even like it's lasting a week :|. I might have to turn off all my PC's if this continues so the valuable work they do when I'm not on them would be lost forever... I do know one reader who knows hat I'm on about as that's how in around about way I came to be on blogger because of this particular nice lady and team mate... She's still a nice lady (dispite what her kids may say about her).
Oh and it's happy me at work now although last week was a swine (read previous post) Oh and it took me most of wednesday / thursday to get the office back to rights with everything else that was going on, still a few things to be sorted but alas they are outside my realm of expertise.

So peace y'all

Devil - Deep Blue

Hmm feel like I fucking stuck between the devil and the deep blue sea here aka the rock and a hard place.
Just as I was about to leave on Friday, boss asked to have a word..
Thought?????
He ripped into me saying I didn't look "interested" the day before when I was out working, in a bar pulling cable and it was fucking cold and I wasn't feeling 100% but of course that would have been seen as a "lame" excuse so I didn't even bother..
Basically told that another note would go in my file, that we both knew this, that he wouldn't put a written in although he could have. Apprently my colleague aka his son, sounded pissed off when he called to see how things were and all he saw was me cold, jacket wrapped around me looking miserable (aka not interested) and then I ask a question is "there anything else needs done?" a genuine question, I can't fucking read minds!
Today, I found out I was going to be working late, thought I have the job done by 4 but alas not so phoned, got sister, said I'd be able half an hour maybe, was 1 1/2 hrs...
I got the impression from the phone call I got back from her that I maybe should just give up the job since my hours "weren't suiting her" aka I was late, I don't work fixed fucking hours and she knows that already, of course if this happens again or I think i'll be running late I'll have that worry on my mind, not concentrate fully on job in hand and get fired for it or asked to leave etc...
So Do I 1) Resign with good reason 2) Stick it out even if I have no sanity left..

Wading through the BS!

Okay, meant to post this yesterday but well forgot and well it's incredible really...
Okay mum did get shouted but only because she shouted at my sister 1st saying my dad was hungry, reply why not making him a sandwich - thing is my dad eats something and that's it for like 3-4-5 hrs, what they meant was like a cup of tea and maybe a biscuit but hey I wasn't there so as far as I'm concerned it could be BS!
They have applogised to dad in around about way or so they say. The op mum had will cause mood swings apparently but that's not being taking into consideration at all, also one sister has got the whole 9 yards of sobbing to a fine art you know the kind the "but,but,but" blubbering that a kid would do that style and going I'm worried what if this and if that and what if something else a lot of fucking what if's and I now have a "list" of things to do like I don't have enough to funking do - cooking dinner, putting dishwasher on, wiping stuff down, putting the washing on, doing the ironing, zoning out totally!
It includes stuff that I'm like WHY the fuck am I do I have to do that, I mean they come down they could surely do that take them no time as they are used to it..
ARGH!!!!

Would you do this....

Okay here's the situation as you know mum isn't well, got headaches but the doc says she'll have them for a few months due to the operation she had, Dad isn't keep so good and what doesn't help is my "delightful" sisters coming in and yelling at mum to not do something like she's 5 yr old in front of my dad who they are "worried" about.
Now they are threatening to put her in a home which I think will pretty much kill dad but of course they are so blind they won't see that - my oldest sister I think is comparing mum to her mother-in-law who had senile demetia or parkinson's or something like that and couldn't be trust with anything. I get half the story from them and then I get the other half when I get home and the thing is, mum can do stuff she knows her limits or rather thinks she does steps over them and feels crap and get dad worried..
I'm doing what I can honest and dad knows this.
Okay she was told not to do anything heavy duty, no hoovering, ironing etc anything that would involve a lot of weight on her right hand as it's not 100% yet, she did get taking in on sunday as she did some hoovering but I think she overdid it - lesson learned - no she got shouted at on the monday about it, I get "told" as well, getting sick of that "tone" now.
Also she was told there was stuff in the freezer that she could cook for her and dad if I was going to be late or if they fancied it but now she isn't allowed as they might want chips with it - thing is this, mother never ever leaves the chip pan unattended - we have one that sits on the stove, it does the job nicely but no that's not good enough I think what's happening is sisters are hearing 2nd / 3rd hand and taking it the wrong way, nothing new there! She was told off about that as well before the both stormed out, now what was I saying about 5 yr olds...
None of this of course helps dad out he gets tensed up and that him all day practically. Today one of them was in and acted like "nothing" had gone on, no apology nothing....

So the question is this HOW The funk would you deal with this, stuck in the middle as I am should do apart from take both my sisters and bang their heads together!
I don't think mum should be in a home but I won't be asked that question as my sister will DECIDE, over my dad's dead body - his words by the way, not mine.